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Throwback Thursdays: Fresh Brewed Life with Nicole Johnson

From the first time I saw a sketch performed by Nicole Johnson I found myself in tears of laughter and tears of compassion, often changing from moment to moment. She has this ability to portray her characters in a way that connects women to one another, which is probably why she has ministered so extensively through Women of Faith conferences. She’s remarkable!

Taken from her website:

Like many women across America and around the world, she has faced spirit-crushing challenges in her life: the divorce of her parents, childhood loneliness, and a difficult marriage that ended in a painful divorce. In the midst of these trials, Nicole gathered together the pieces of her pain and formulated a life-changing philosophy: Life’s greatest value can be found in these broken pieces in that, like the grinding of coffee beans, only when the individual pieces are crushed can they come together to create something far more wonderful and potent than any of the pieces could alone.

It reminds me of Jesus’ words, “Unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds.”

Please enjoy a small selection of some of my favorite Nicole Johnson sketches. More can be can be purchased through her website, Fresh Brewed Life.

“The Invisible Woman”

A portion of “Stepping Into the Ring” (Get your tissues! And try to see the full version if you have an opportunity.)

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Throwback Thursdays: Q&A-Yeast Infections and Vaginismus

I was married and moved to a foreign (3rd world) country a couple days later. My husband I were having great sex for about two weeks. I had no pain on the honeymoon (we were both virgins). Then I developed a yeast infection. Since the infection, intercourse (just the initial penetration) has been painful.

Will this go away? I’ve read a bit in your site on how vaginismus can be triggered by a yeast infection. If I’ve developed vaginismus, is it permanant? All the cures/remidies seem to involve going to a doctor and I don’t have the option of going to a doctor here, so I thought I’d write for advice. Thanks!

We received this letter from a woman and wanted to share the answer we provided her with in case it is of help to any other women suffering with this.

If you have access to sour cream or plain yogurt in the country you are in you should use it to treat the yeast infection. I advise that you eat it every day and also treat yourself topically with it. I would also be a good idea use it on your husband too so you don’t pass the infection back and forth. You can use it during sex, as well. Just make sure that if you opt to use yogurt that it is plain because the sugars in the flavored ones will not be helpful at all. They will actually increase the likelihood of having poor female health.

So for those who don’t have the limitations that this writer has of living in a third world country and not having access to common treatments available in developed nations, you might find this information helpful if you deal with frequent yeast infections or a particularly bad one. Just a helpful tip. :)

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Throwback Thursdays: Showering Together

When was the last time you surprised your husband, by sliding into the shower with him? Showering together can be such a sensual act. I mean, you’re naked, he’s naked, the water is hot and steamy, and you have water beads rolling down your body. What a perfect setting for some intimate moments.

I want to issue a challenge to you women out there. I want you to plan a time that you can join your husband in the shower. Maybe after he’s had a long day at work. Maybe on a weekend night before bed. Just slip out of your clothes and join him. Take the soap or body wash and lather up his chest, shoulders, and arms. Then turn him around and get his back and neck. Have him get on his knees (if he’s much taller than you) and wash his hair for him. Take your time and run your fingers through his hair sensually. Let him feel your naked body against his as the water falls on you both.

Then have him stand again and tell him you need to finish washing him. Lather up your hands and proceed to wash his genitals. Make sure you are easy with his testicles. Feeling your hands caressing and fondling may indeed begin to make him hard! Make sure you wash his penis thoroughly, and rinse everything off too. Then you can just let things happen as they happen. The possibilities are endless. Sensual kissing under the water, holding each other, exchanging words of love, manual sex, oral sex, and vaginal sex are all hot in the shower! And if you’ve never experienced an orgasm while hot water poured down on top of you, you don’t know what you’re missing!

Your shower may end in the bedroom, with just a quick dry off. Other times, you may end up doing oral or vaginal sex in the shower. And then there are those times when sex isn’t even needed. Just that touch, that closeness. Cleaning each other and just being together after a hectic day.

I know that it’s hard to sometimes fit this in, especially if you have young children at home. But if you ever do get a chance to do this, you should go for it! Yes, this would definitely be counted as instigating, and some of us could do a little more of that! Just think about it and see how things go in the next week or so. You never know when the opportunity may just present itself to you.

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Throwback Thursdays: Stripping for your Husband

Stripping can be a very exciting way to release the sexual energy you have for your husband. If you are interested in trying this, I want to offer you a few tips.

First, think about what music feels right for you. Of course, you don’t have to have music, but if you want to dance while you strip in kind of helps. :) Some of my favorite song options included Let’s Get It On, Leave Your Hat On, and for my husband to strip for me Save a Horse… Ride a cowboy. (Warning: these are youtube videos set to these songs and may contain suggestive lyrics or images.) So as you listen to your song choices think about how it would work to strip to it, what movements would work and how long the song is. You want a song that will feed your sexy vibe.

Next, you want to think about what you are going to wear. Choose something that will allow you to build the tease factor. Tops that have zippers or buttons that you can undo slowly are a good choice. A skirt that can slide over your hips easily and drop to the floor without too much fussing is a better alternative to pants which are simply not the kind of thing you can take off in a sexy way. Well, peppermintgirl has agility like none other so I’m sure she could take pants off in a sexy way ;) , but the rest of us, not so much. For the lingerie, you might incorporate pasties or a sexy bra. Choose panties that your husband likes to see you in. If he likes seeing you in a thong, wear that. If he likes a skimpy, but full back pantie, wear that. You might also wear thigh high stockings and some sexy boots or shoes and maybe start out with your hair up and then let it loose as you get into it. If, as a couple, you enjoy dressing up in costumes as part of your sex life, you could dress up like an “office girl” or “nurse” and strip for him that way. Just see what works for you.

Let him know before you start if you have any rules for him to follow, like no touching you unless you direct him to. Sit him in a comfortable place so he can see you from many angles. Make sure you have enough space to move around the room. You may end up using the floor to lay on at times or to crawl around so try to keep that in mind too. When you start the music, just begin dancing around incorporating the classic hip swivel and gliding your hands down over your curves. Touch the places on your body that HE wants to touch. Rest them on your rear and slide them over your breasts. You might want to try out one of the many stripper aerobics DVDs out on the market to give you some ideas for moves. Or better yet, go with some girlfriends to a class.

When you are ready to start removing your clothes, start with accessories, then your top, then your skirt and then stay in your lingerie for a while just dancing in that. You might give him a lap dance at this point. Then remove your stockings, if you are wearing them, and then your bra and finally your panties. If your husband likes to watch you masturbate you could end of with a bit of that, but chances are you are both going to be ready for some immediate contact.

Your husband wants to see you free. If you feel confident, you will look great.

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Throwback Thursdays: Creating Waves of Passion

Early on I would forget about all the possible erogenous zones and I would go straight for my husband’s penis. He has so many other responsive areas that shouldn’t be passed up. Some men get an erection from softly biting their buttocks. Others many love to have their ears paid special attention to with either your tongue or breathing. To know these responses is to know your husband.

We can start with his head. Yes, I mean the one between his shoulders. Men have a visual rolodex that we need to keep full and fresh. Arouse him mentally. Use your words to tell him exactly what you want to do to him. Take those seductive pictures you have been thinking of taking and make sure to stick them in his computer bag before he leaves for work. Flash him throughout the day. Grab for him. Flirt with him. Show him that he is important to you and that he does excite you.

Next is the kiss. I like to relax my lips. I don’t pucker or clench my teeth. Kissing someone who is acting like they have lockjaw just doesn’t give me warm fuzzies. I let my lips go almost limp and relax my chin. This way my mouth opens slightly for some sensual tongue play as the passion mounts. Even when I come up for a breather I’m always nibbling on his lips or kissing his eyes, nose or cheeks then I go in for some more. Lingering is the key. I even do a signature thing where I may suck and play with his tongue and lips. This way he can imagine what my mouth can do elsewhere on his body.

Take hold of his head. Now I’m talking about his lower head on his penis. When I am making love to my husband I become enmeshed with his thrusts. I don’t lay there like a rag doll. I’m active and enthusiastic about all the attention he is paying to me. I like to use my pc muscles and give my husband what we call “special hugs”. If you are wondering those are the same muscles used to do your kegel exercise and to stop urine flow. (New Year’s resolution time, do kegel exercises.) Also, don’t be afraid to wriggle. I always thought that good girls shouldn’t wriggle and that is so far from the truth. My husband loves a good healthy wriggle.

Enjoy oral sex. If you have any reservations then try focusing on this: First, experimenting will lower your inhibitions and cause greater intimacy between you and your husband. The more you do it the more confidence you will have. Secondly, he will love you for it. If you need some ideas on how to do oral sex you may want to go back to cumingirls article titled “Tasting His Fruit”. I love experimenting with my husband. I could tell what he likes by his breathing, body position and the grunts that only I can translate. Don’t be afraid to try a new technique that you developed yourself.

Become a “hands on” woman. I love to use my hands on my husband. If his head is the only part of his body I can reach because he is enjoying my lower delights then I run my fingers through his hair. If he is on top of me or below me making love then I grab whatever I can. Whether it is his buttocks, running my nails gently down his back, over his pectorals or reaching between his legs to get at his testicles or his perineum I am always using my hands to help drive him wild.

The most important thing is to have fun in your bedroom. Enjoy it, cherish it, and thank God for it!!

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Throwback Thursdays: Erotic Letters

I love hearing my husband tell me all the sexual things he wants to do to me.  Reading about the sexual things he wants to do to me is a very close second.  I am a very visual person and when he sets the scenarios through his writing I am at that place and time.  I love it!!  You can start by writing a paragraph and then take turns expounding on that thought.  It can be a real life event that has already happened or think up a brand new, never been done encounter.  When my husband goes away on business he will sometimes place one of these stories in a spot where I will just happen to come across them.  He leaves them in my bed, in an email, on my computer stand or in my car.  Cuddling up with one of his letters sometimes leads to a special phone call but that is another topic.

What are the benefits of writing letters?  These letters are a great way to ‘experience’ something that you never would in real life.   You can also pretend to be something that you are not.  I’ll give you an example.  I truly dislike flying.  How those pretty, shiny, heavy, shark shaped things stay in the air is beyond me.  I will go on airplanes but I do a lot of praying beforehand.  In my letters I can be a flight attendant or even a pilot if I wanted to be.  It also allows you to talk about a thought or fantasy that you may be embarrassed to bring up face to face.  If there is something you want to try but too shy to bring up this may open the door for discussion.

The first time I did send my husband an erotic note he was kind of beside himself.  I think he was overwhelmed.  If you are thinking that yours may get overwhelmed then just send a short, steamy text message to his phone and see how he reacts.  Even a short note describing what you loved about your last encounter may be a way to ease into it.  Who knows, this new erotic letter could be your next fantasy come true!!!

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Throwback Thursdays: Going Commando

The term going commando originally caused me to have visions of Arnold Schwarzenegger. I quickly learned that this term merely meant that you were not wearing any underwear. Some other terms that mean the same thing are ‘going indian’, ‘free balling’ (this term is for men seeing that we don’t own any balls to set free), and free buffing.

I do not go commando 100% of the time. When I do it does help me feel sexier. Once in awhile I may ‘forget’ to put my underwear on which then leads to me confessing to my husband. This can really drive him crazy depending on where we are or what we are doing. Try removing your underwear in the ladies room, discreetly put them in your husband’s pocket and see what happens. Sometimes I go without telling him that I am underwear free and he figures it out soon enough with the touch of his hand. Some people choose to go commando 100% of the time. Cummingirl mentioned not wearing panties in her Ben Wa Balls: A Toy Review. If I remember correctly her ben wa balls did fall out at one point so there you go, woman are capable of freeing there balls. ;)

Sleeping nude is a very common practice. The benefits are that it keeps air circulating, improving fertility in men, increases physical intimacy with your spouse, and it helps us relax. Remember that we entered this world naked and probably preferred to be naked as toddlers as well. It’s a natural state.

That being said, I usually do need to wear something to bed. I have trained myself to feel more comfortable that way. I think I will change my ways after reading all these benefits of sleeping in the buff. In my investigating of this subject I have found that being naked can stop perspiration, therefore decreasing body order. Not restrict blood vessels, which cut down on developing varicose veins. I’m all about smelling good and making my legs look as attractive as they can. Oh, look at the time. I need to get ready for bed. I can’t wait for my husband to experience his ‘morning wood’ while he is free balling. Ahhh, good times!! Hasta la vista, baby!!

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