I had an interesting question come up.   With the use of phones and webcams and iPads and such….  is it a good idea to take pictures of yourself and text them to your spouse?

It depends on your comfort level first of all.   Me, personally, I really wouldn’t want to send “personal” pictures to my hubby on his phone.  He works with Jr. High and HS kids…what if he left his phone laying around and someone else were to pick it up?  What if his phone gets stolen?  My picture could be text all over kingdom come….

Now, in the past, when he goes on out of town trips, we have got on webcam and given each other peepshows, when it was just him and me in our rooms (his hotel private room and me when the kids are in bed and won’t be visiting me in my room)  It has been very erotic.  Nothing recorded or anything like that.

If your spouse ever asks you to do something that you are uncomfortable with or to do something you think is sinful, I wouldn’t do it.  Gently explain your reasons why.   Examine your reason.   Is it selfish or a reasonable concern?  If you think it is sinful, do you have scripture to back it up?  Can you come up with a compromise that would be acceptable to both of you?

What would you do if your spouse asked you to take a picture and send it to him via text or email?

Reader’s Questions: Low Drive after Miscarriage

 My DH and I will have been married a year at the end of July.  I got pregnant last October but had a miscarriage after on New Years Eve, with a D&C on New Years Day.  Needless to say its puts a tough strain on our marriage, we were both really torn up about it.  To compound the issue my hormones have gone completely nuts.  The Premenstrual dysphoric disorder that I had as a teenager came back with a roar, which makes me extremely exhausted, irritable, agitated, and emotional.  We have been unable to get pregnant for the last 6 months.  One of the worst symptoms though is my sex drive or complete lack of it.

Last week my husband asked, with tears and fear in his eyes, if I still loved him or if we were just roommates.  I felt awful about it.  I don’t know what to do though.  I’m trying to get the hormone problem fixed with the help of a fertility specialist.  I’ve tried masturbating and I’ve tried having sex every day with my DH.  Nothing helps.  I can’t even get aroused.  If I do its only slightly and I very rarely orgasm and definitely not one worth writing home about.   I don’t know what to do.  I feel terrible about my husband wondering if I still love him and think he is attractive and I sure do!


This is such  a hard situation.  I am so sorry for your loss.   I am going to leave this for readers.  I have never had a miscarriage, so I cannot even begin to understand the devastation this has caused both of you in losing your child.    I am praying for you both.  I can tell you that God can heal this.  What does your doctor say?  Are you talking to anyone about the miscarriage?


Reader’s question: Help a HSD wife

Do you have any advice for women with a HSD dealing with a man with LSD? This is the case with our marriage, and we’ve only been married 4 months! I try to talk about it with my husband, but it seems like he is just constantly tired. I am nearly always the initiator. We both work full time – I just don’t know why he is always wiped out. He has said a couple of times that when he is tired (or when I want to try something new) sex feels like work. I know he didn’t mean it to be hurtful but I kind of resent that comment. How on earth to I talk about my frustration without completely damaging his self-esteem?

I am not HSD in my house, so I will leave this out there for any of you HSD wives… what has worked for you?