I corresponded with Paul and Lori Byerly off and on for years now, and I truly appreciate their ministry at the Marriage Bed. It has been a blessing to our marriage, and I am ever so glad that my husband found and introduced me to the Marriage Bed when we were going through our sexual difficulties. If you have not visited their site, I highly encourage it.
I was reading one of Paul’s articles (The Three S’s) on the site, and it is very helpful to me, so I thought I would pass it on to you, too. I know a lot of you don’t have issues with this topic, but I also know there are those who do have issues. It was about three things that you can do naked that do not have to end up with sexual intercourse. Of course, they CAN end up that way if you wish, but it doesn’t have to.
Those three things are SHOWERS, SLEEPING and SNUGGLING. I know I tend to avoid showers about 90% of the time, just because somehow I have related showering together with sexual intercourse, not just for the pleasure of seeing, touching and cleaning each other’s bodies. Sleeping is hard for me, too. I see so many pretty things that I want to wear to bed, and yes, some are not too pretty, but I PROMISE, I gave up my flannels a long time ago with my granny panties, ok?? Hubby loves to sleep naked. If I buy anything pretty that I think he’ll like to see me in, it ends up on the floor…he’d rather see me naked. I get that. My hang up used to be the kids… I don’t have that problem anymore, so I need to do this more often. Just need to find a good place to hang my robe near my side of the bed. Snuggling is just something that needs to happen more often in our household. It ends up being snuggling in bed at night only with a teen and a preteen in the house, so it fits more under the category of sleeping with us… we just need to get creative with this.
Thanks, Paul, for this article. It was really helpful and made me aware of areas I need to work on in my own marriage.