So many Christian and secular sex books seem to imply that each person is responsible for their own sexual needs being met; that it is their choice whether they have an orgasm or not. But what if your DH is not as skilled as you are in lovemaking? Or doesn’t see the urgency to learn, even though you’ve tried to communicate your needs? It seems easier to me to just satisfy his needs, take the pressure off him for satisfying yours, and go get some toys that will do the job. Everyone leaves happy. Has anyone else dealt with this and found a solution?
Are you and you alone responsible for your own sexual needs? My hubby comes from the “She Comes First” ideology…. what do you think? What is your experience?