The CAT technique is a modified version of missionary. We use our own version of it often in this house. It has been criticized for being complicated, yet many couples seem to love this position. This technique is all about getting pressure applied to the clitoris. That makes sense, because we all know that clitoral stimulation is most often what women need for orgasm to take place anyway.
In this position, the husband enters from on top, as in missionary. He then moves his body upward a little, so that the base of his penis, or his pubic bone, is applying pressure to the wife’s clitoris. Then, instead of just thrusting in and out like a piston, the couple takes turns rocking back and forth, keeping constant pressure on the wife’s clitoris. The husband isn’t able to achieve deep penetration this way, but it does help to arouse the wife. She needs to be mostly in control of this give and take. It is all about constant pressure with subtle movements from both partners continuing. For more information on this position, click here.
The wife can fold her feet around her husband’s legs to gain leverage for doing her own thrusting. The key to this technique is for both spouses to be moving their pelvis, not just the husband. It works best if he does not have to hold himself up on his hands or arms. He can lay down halfway on top of his wife, leaning part of his weight to one side of her, while wrapping his arms around her back and holding her tight. I’ve looked for an illustration or sketch of this technique online, but it really can’t be showed in a picture. All pictures of it just end up looking like regular missionary position. There is another site that gives specific steps for mastering this technique, located here.
The CAT can be used to sufficiently arouse the wife to the point where she is almost at orgasm. Then the husband can start thrusting like normal missionary while the woman is experiencing her orgasm. Often times this can result in almost simultaneous orgasms!
Pros: This position gives clitoral stimulation to the wife. It also allows for kissing and closeness.
Cons: Coital Alignment Technique does not allow for deep penetration. It can take the husband a little while to get the hang of it, because it isn’t about thrusting.
I love hearing my husband tell me all the sexual things he wants to do to me. Reading about the sexual things he wants to do to me is a very close second. I am a very visual person and when he sets the scenarios through his writing I am at that place and time. I love it!! You can start by writing a paragraph and then take turns expounding on that thought. It can be a real life event that has already happened or think up a brand new, never been done encounter. When my husband goes away on business he will sometimes place one of these stories in a spot where I will just happen to come across them. He leaves them in my bed, in an email, on my computer stand or in my car. Cuddling up with one of his letters sometimes leads to a special phone call but that is another topic.
What are the benefits of writing letters? These letters are a great way to ‘experience’ something that you never would in real life. You can also pretend to be something that you are not. I’ll give you an example. I truly dislike flying. How those pretty, shiny, heavy, shark shaped things stay in the air is beyond me. I will go on airplanes but I do a lot of praying beforehand. In my letters I can be a flight attendant or even a pilot if I wanted to be. It also allows you to talk about a thought or fantasy that you may be embarrassed to bring up face to face. If there is something you want to try but too shy to bring up this may open the door for discussion.
The first time I did send my husband an erotic note he was kind of beside himself. I think he was overwhelmed. If you are thinking that yours may get overwhelmed then just send a short, steamy text message to his phone and see how he reacts. Even a short note describing what you loved about your last encounter may be a way to ease into it. Who knows, this new erotic letter could be your next fantasy come true!!!
Hi I just have a quick question. I know you guys don’t like engaged people on here I just was wondering something. For my honeymoon my fiancee and I are going to the coast. Without planning it I’m assuming we will end up on the beach at some point and I was just wondering if the saltwater would burn or cause yeast infection during water sex? Thanks for the help!
So, for anyone who has ever had sex at the beach, on the beach or in the ocean, what were your experiences with saltwater and intercourse?
I read another article that hit very close to home. It reminded me of the first 11 years of my marriage…. How I carried guilt and shame, let Satan reside in my mind and let him torture me with my past sin. I took it out on my husband and my marriage bed. I am thankful for the forgiveness from God and my husband that I can now look back and see God’s footprints trying to help me along, but He was patient enough to wait until I was ready to really listen and see what He wanted me to see.
This article is entitled That Still Hurts and it was written this past February. I felt like I could have written it. You can read about my past here on a CN article I wrote as NutmegNympho called Why Wait? The Repercussions . Remember, you are leaving this site for the Christian Nymphos site when you read it… not that it’s a bad thing, but some people have a problem with the name…. Satan had nailed me to my past and it really was ruining me, my husband, my marriage and my relationship with God.
I can think on my past now without all the damage it has done to me. Like I said in my CN article, it’s in the Sea of Forgetfulness, but I can look at it and see God’s footprints in the whole situation. My awakening was something spectacular in my life, where I could really see the truth….the whole truth. I handed my past over to God. He’s handling it now, and I don’t have to worry about it. Satan can use it against me no more.
What did you glean from the article? Did you learn something new? Do you want to share your past experiences? I am hopeful that my story will help someone who thinks they are in the pit of despair…. If you are in a pit, the only thing you can do is look up, right?
“You can never learn that Christ is all you need, until Christ is all you have.”
― Corrie ten Boom
Think of something the two of you did and enjoyed that you have not done in a long time. Then do it!
If you are craving deep G-spot stimulation or if your husband is a big fan of your backside then rear entry would probably be an ideal position for you. This position really stimulates the g-spot and it frees up the husbands hands to explore other areas. He can stimulate your clitoris, anus or caress your breasts. Ahhhh, what wonderful sensations.
Usually the woman gets on her hands and knees while the man is on just his knees in between or straddling her legs. Try the different styles to see which you prefer. I have found that if my legs are positioned outside my husbands, or if he has one knee up and the other leg straddling mine, that I get a deeper penetration. If you and your husband have a big height difference then he could always stand on the side of the bed while you are laying, tummy down, on it. Bed risers have been a big help for us on those occasions where my husband does choose to stand. Cumingirl wrote a through article on the benefits of bed risers. I have not tried but have heard wonderful things about the liberator helping your positioning as well.
If you are experiencing pain then try lowering your upper body down so that your chest is laying on the bed. Putting pillows under your belly may help as well. This should help him to not hit your cervix. Having an orgasm before getting into this position may also help not hit the cervix. He could always stay in a kneeing position while you do all the moving. That way you can see what depth feels right for you. Just keep communicating with him about what does and does not feel good. Don’t be afraid to move around and adjust.
Now that you are in position I will give you some pointers on what you can do to make this enjoyable for yourself and your husband as well. You or your husband can rub your clitoris while in this positions. If you are like me and have a difficult time having an orgasm through G-spot stimulation only then this is a must. (If you are unfamiliar with the location of your G-spot check out Spicy Nutmeg’s “Another New Spice…the G-spot” article.) Another option is for either of you to hold an egg vibrator or bullet to stimulate your clitoris. Your husband can also play around your anus at this time if it is something that interests you. He should start with light touches and then he can apply more or less pressure depending on what you like.
After you have you orgasm feel free to reach back to caress the area between your husband’s testicles and anus to help bring him maximum pleasure. Most husbands like this position because he gets to look at his wife’s backside and it is a nice tight fit for him. Speaking of backside and tight, an added bonus is if you can line him up in front of a mirror and see his tight bottom flexing as he thrusts. If you are not able to situate yourself in front of a mirror then a camcorder works just as well.
The term going commando originally caused me to have visions of Arnold Schwarzenegger. I quickly learned that this term merely meant that you were not wearing any underwear. Some other terms that mean the same thing are ‘going indian’, ‘free balling’ (this term is for men seeing that we don’t own any balls to set free), and free buffing.
I do not go commando 100% of the time. When I do it does help me feel sexier. Once in awhile I may ‘forget’ to put my underwear on which then leads to me confessing to my husband. This can really drive him crazy depending on where we are or what we are doing. Try removing your underwear in the ladies room, discreetly put them in your husband’s pocket and see what happens. Sometimes I go without telling him that I am underwear free and he figures it out soon enough with the touch of his hand. Some people choose to go commando 100% of the time. Cummingirl mentioned not wearing panties in her Ben Wa Balls: A Toy Review. If I remember correctly her ben wa balls did fall out at one point so there you go, woman are capable of freeing there balls.
Sleeping nude is a very common practice. The benefits are that it keeps air circulating, improving fertility in men, increases physical intimacy with your spouse, and it helps us relax. Remember that we entered this world naked and probably preferred to be naked as toddlers as well. It’s a natural state.
That being said, I usually do need to wear something to bed. I have trained myself to feel more comfortable that way. I think I will change my ways after reading all these benefits of sleeping in the buff. In my investigating of this subject I have found that being naked can stop perspiration, therefore decreasing body order. Not restrict blood vessels, which cut down on developing varicose veins. I’m all about smelling good and making my legs look as attractive as they can. Oh, look at the time. I need to get ready for bed. I can’t wait for my husband to experience his ‘morning wood’ while he is free balling. Ahhh, good times!! Hasta la vista, baby!!