As I was reading on my personal Facebook page today, I came upon an article on the Marriage Bed page that I thought was very good.
This article was so good. It reminded me of what DH and I used to say about why we were so attracted to each other when we were dating… “I feel like I don’t have to pretend to be someone else…I can just be myself”. That is so important to a marriage! I agree with Janet in this post. I would never want my husband to feel torn down because I didn’t like the man that God created in him. Clothing….all superficial. My DH doesn’t have much choice. He’s very tall, and for some reason, designers think that men that are tall only wear dorky clothing styles. He is very conscious of not drawing attention to himself…his height already does that (How tall are you? Do you play basketball?) I would never assume to tell him what to wear, what to eat…. “We all want to be accepted for who we are in all our glory” God created us in His image, and each of us is unique the way God created us.
This was a great read. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
Come up with a secret code that you and your hubby share that you can use in public to let him know that you are in the mood for some good lovin’! It could be as simple as being at the grocery store and saying, “I really need some coconut oil for tonight” or “which do you think is better… a 6″ or a footlong?” 😉 Flirt with him incessantly! Grab his butt! Whatever you feel comfortable with…. Just do it!
OK, you are probably thinking that I came up with the name Cupid’s Arrow just in time for Valentine’s Day and I guess you are right but it is pretty fitting. This is a woman on top position that allows fantastic G-spot as well as clitoral stimulation but instead of you controlling all the movements, it is your husband who will be determining the depth. I’m sure he will not mind getting some specific directions from you if needed. Just yell out your commands to him to go faster or slower and he will be more than happy to please you. The last time we did this position I told my husband he was lucky I didn’t drool on him. Not the loveliest image but I’m telling you, it’s that good!!
Have your husband lay flat on his back while you straddle him like a typical cowgirl position. Support your weight on your knees (which should be on either side of him) and lean forward so that you can rest your weight on your elbows. Make sure you are forward enough so that your clitoris is being stimulated by rubbing on him. Have him bend his legs slightly at the knees so that he has leverage to do his thrusting. Your husband will have freedom to thrust as fast or as slow as he wants. With each thrust you should also be getting stimulation on your clitoris and his “arrow” should be hitting your G-spot. The results are mind blowing orgasms.
Pros: ~ Multiple types of stimulation all at the same time.
~ Coordination galore is not needed. (Anyone can do it.)
~Face to face contact.
Cons: ~ I can’t think of any. Well, I guess you could run into that drooling scenario but my husband told me that he could care less if it did happen. Truth be told, I think it would make him feel pretty good now that I think about it.
“My hubby likes me to call him Daddy and he calls me Baby Girl, and My Girl when we are in bed … I am okay with it mostly, but I have had people question its appropriateness … implying there is something REALLY WRONG with it. What do you think?”
First of all, I’d have no problem in telling those friends to butt out. It’s my marriage and my husband and whatever pet names we choose to call each other is my business. They can keep their judgments to themselves or hit the road. (That’s just the way I roll ) You may not be as bold or you may not want to come off so rude, or you may care too much about their friendships to risk losing them. So how you handle your friends is up to you.
For further insight though… experience may play a key role here. Others may have some major issues with this because of past trauma or abuse. Imagine the woman who was molested as a child by a ‘father figure’ or the woman who was beaten by an abusive husband and made to call him “daddy.” The thoughts of calling their now husband “daddy” may be the furthest thing from their minds. It could be revolting for them, and they may not understand at all how you could find that to be a ‘normal loving pet name’ for your dh. So I would try and be aware of and sensitive to my friends’ situations.
As far as the issue of pet names goes… again that is between you and your husband. I think it’s totally fine. I call my dh “daddy” all the time because that is what I call him around the kids “Go ask daddy.” “Daddy, can you make him a PB sandwich?” That type of thing. So even when the kids are gone I will sometimes call him that out of habit (and yes, I’ve used that term in bed a few times too…not as if I’m calling him my daddy, but just calling him that because he is the daddy of our children and that’s his role). If you and your husband find those pet names to be loving towards each other then don’t allow others to rob you of your joy. Just my opinion
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While reading my emails, I decided to start a new category for posts from y’all called Reader questions, and Tanya, you get to be the first one! (I know she won’t mind…she emails me all the time. 😉 )
Boobs is the topic. Just wondering how many of you have asymmetrical boobs (one bigger or smaller than the other)? I have D cups boobs and they’ve always been uneven (even when I first developed). It has always made me a bit self conscious. I even had a doctor comment on it once. He said I should get that fixed (make one bigger or the other one smaller). He even said, “Well, maybe you’ll have a husband someday that doesn’t care.” Turns out I do have a husband who doesn’t care…not one bit!!! He LOVES my boobs…says I have the nicest titties he’s ever seen. He never ever wants me to have any surgery to change them. “I love you just the way you are…you’re perfect to me.” Anyway, just wondering how many other women have one boob bigger/smaller than the other. Is it a noticeable difference? What about smaller boobs? Is that still an issue with them (say an A cup or a B cup)?
I personally don’t have either problem…. asymmetrical breasts or size D cup … SO readers, this is your chance to chime in. Please keep it on the topic at hand to answer our sister’s question…. Happy discussing!!!
In light of the fact that this week is Valentine’s Day, I wanted to share a devotional that I read from a book called Daily Grace for Women. Since I am copying the devotion, I want to be sure to give full credit to this book. It’s on p. 39.
It’s been called a phenomenon, a mysterious and splendid thing. It’s as invisible as the air we breathe, yet equally essential Poets have tried to descr ibe it. Philosophers have sought to understand it. Songwriters have mined from their hearts the emotional treasure it evokes. But the mystery and miracle of love remains indescribable. What an amazing gift God has given us – not only to observe, but also to miraculously experience! His Word proclaims it to be greater than hope and faith.
Long before St. Valentine was adopted as the patron saint of lovers, God’s love was the foundation of true love. Because of the romantic symbols we use to celebrate Valentine’s Day, we forget that St. Valentine actually lost his life because of his love for God. Beyond the glamour of roses and chocolates that help us celebrate the world’s view of romantic love, we find a man who gave his all for the love of his Savior.
Love is the deepest and most fulfilling gift God has ever given us. That gift transcends outward symbols and trivial attempts to explain it. Without His love, we wouldn’t experience God’s mercy, His Salvation or His joy. Once received, the deep abiding love of Christ in our hearts will overflow into every aspect of our lives. Real love, the kkind of love that sacrificed all for you and me, came in human form to unite our hearts to God’s.
Do you desire to love more and experience more love in your life? God’s word encourages, “If we love one another, God abides in us, and His love is perfected in us” (1 John 4:12 NASB)
Celebrate the sacred bliss of true love. Wrap yourself and others in this extraordinary gift that was hand delivered from Heaven by the Author and Creator of love.
As you approach Valentine’s Day, remember where love first came from…your Father in Heaven. If it wasn’t for His love, we would have no love at all.