“My hubby likes me to call him Daddy and he calls me Baby Girl, and My Girl when we are in bed … I am okay with it mostly, but I have had people question its appropriateness … implying there is something REALLY WRONG with it. What do you think?”
First of all, I’d have no problem in telling those friends to butt out. It’s my marriage and my husband and whatever pet names we choose to call each other is my business. They can keep their judgments to themselves or hit the road. (That’s just the way I roll ) You may not be as bold or you may not want to come off so rude, or you may care too much about their friendships to risk losing them. So how you handle your friends is up to you.
For further insight though… experience may play a key role here. Others may have some major issues with this because of past trauma or abuse. Imagine the woman who was molested as a child by a ‘father figure’ or the woman who was beaten by an abusive husband and made to call him “daddy.” The thoughts of calling their now husband “daddy” may be the furthest thing from their minds. It could be revolting for them, and they may not understand at all how you could find that to be a ‘normal loving pet name’ for your dh. So I would try and be aware of and sensitive to my friends’ situations.
As far as the issue of pet names goes… again that is between you and your husband. I think it’s totally fine. I call my dh “daddy” all the time because that is what I call him around the kids “Go ask daddy.” “Daddy, can you make him a PB sandwich?” That type of thing. So even when the kids are gone I will sometimes call him that out of habit (and yes, I’ve used that term in bed a few times too…not as if I’m calling him my daddy, but just calling him that because he is the daddy of our children and that’s his role). If you and your husband find those pet names to be loving towards each other then don’t allow others to rob you of your joy. Just my opinion