Clitoral orgasms v vaginal orgasms

I reader wrote in to me about orgasm difficulties she was having.   She’s able to get an orgasm with a vibrator or with the water from her shower head, but she is inquiring about wanting to know how to get one during intercourse.

I actually starting “touching” myself when I was probably about 8-9ish.  I was playing in the basement of our house, when I happened upon a stash of my Dad’s Playboy magazines.   I opened one, intrigued, to see what it was and came upon a picture (centerfold) of a naked woman who was touching her clitoris.  I don’t know why, but that at times, I can still see that picture in my mind… I found and touched my own clitoris then, and realized that it felt really good to touch it.   From that point on, my interest in the feelings I got from it continued on for years…. so from a very young age, I was able to determine what needed to be done to make that area of my body feel good.

Once you realize what it takes to get that wonderful warm feeling of an orgasm, you need to determine how to pass that information on to your husband, so he can help.   One thing that has helped me when I went through a period of only getting clitoral orgasms was to try to find positions to use in which I could grind my clitoris against my husband during intercourse.   WOT (woman on top) is one of those positions where you can take control and drag your clitoris along his shaft or grind it into his body until you orgasm.   If you are okay with going back to the Christian Nymphos page, we have a whole page (section) on positions of the week. You can look through these at your leisure to see if any of these would work for you.  The closer you get your body to his (which means deep penetration), the better chance you have to get a clitoral orgasm during intercourse.

Now, while you are in there as deep as penetration is possible, you may find that you reach a point where your vaginal walls are really stimulated.   I was totally surprised (pleasantly of course) when I had my first vaginal orgasm.    There are two spots inside the vagina that when stimulated can create an orgasm.  The first is the G-spot, located just inside the vaginal opening on the roof of the vagina.   If you stick one finger inside your vagina and do the “come here” motion, you will find the G-spot.   I love G-spot orgasms.   Incredible when you stimulate it just right.  The other is Deep Spot orgasms.  You can read about it, but it’s basically back near your cervix.  Be careful!  If you thrust and hit the cervix, it HURTS!  BUT I have had deep spot orgasms in the past, too, that were really good…just don’t get them as often.

I hope this helps.  If there are any tips or tricks that you have to help this reader out, please feel free to respond.

2 thoughts on “Clitoral orgasms v vaginal orgasms

  1. I too from a younger age have been giving myself clitoral orgasms but have never been able to achieve a vaginal orgasm. I have been married now for almost 2 years and still have not been able to get it. We are still learning together and I had difficulties with scar tissue in my vagina which hurt so bad so the first year or so of our marriage we were unable to have sex. But before I was Christian I had past sexual relationships and I still was unable to achieve vaginal orgasm! It is disappointing for me. I have done SO many different positions and nothing seems to help!

    I can actually have a great orgasm by having sex and using a vibrator at the same time! That feels great…but yeah….still trying!

  2. I honestly didn’t know there was a difference between clitoral orgasms and vaginal orgasms. ha! But for years I’ve only been able to orgasm while I’m on top and hubby plays around w/ my nipples at the same time. Just recently, I’ve been able to coach him to how to finger me to orgasm, and that’s fun, but not the same or as strong. We would love to get one with me on the bottom, or when he’s behind me, but so far, it doesn’t work. So if you haven’t already, try different positions.

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