We’ve talked about giving a sensual massage and mentioned it in several different places on our blog, but I don’t think we have any kind of how-to written about it. My husband and I have done this for each other a few times, and it’s so nice. We both really enjoy giving and receiving. I’m going to outline how I’ve done this for my husband in the past so that any of you who haven’t yet done this can get an idea of how it could go.
It’s important to have a soft and secure environment for this type of thing. You don’t want interruptions from kids or cell phones. You want a nice place for him to lie down, and it is a good idea if you protect that place with plastic or an extra blanket that you don’t mind getting massage oils on. You can easily purchase a cheap shower liner that would work perfectly, if you wanted to drape it over your bed. Then I’d suggest placing a soft blanket on top of that for your dh to lie on. This could also be done on the floor/sofa in front of a fireplace, or where ever else you and your dh find to be a soft, sensual, calm environment.
Have a table nearby with everything ready to go. You will need to decide which type of massage oil you want to use beforehand, and whether or not you want to heat it up a little in the microwave. I prefer using Coconut Oil myself, and I do melt it in the microwave and make it nice and warm. Have a bath towel and hand towel available. If you want to go the extra mile, then have your dh a glass of wine (or his favorite beer) to sip on. You can also get a satin blindfold (think sleep mask- available at most stores) for him to wear if you want him to really be able to block out the world and heighten his physical touch. Decide if you want a certain type of music playing in the background. Decide what you will be wearing (if anything) and what you want the rules to be. Ex: He can’t touch you even if he wants to.
Have your dh strip naked and lie face down first. You can use the bath towel to drape over his rear to start out with. This isn’t supposed to be overtly sexual, just sensual, and you don’t want to distract yourself too early! Drizzle some oil on his shoulders& neck. Start massaging at his neck and move outward to his shoulder and all the way down his arm into his hand and each individual finger. Don’t rush…take your time and really apply enough pressure to work his muscles over. Repeat on the other shoulder, arm, hand.
Then go back to his shoulders and start working your way down his back (applying more oil when necessary). Make sure you span his entire back, including his sides. It may be helpful to straddle him and sit on his rear. At this point you can remove the towel and drizzle oil on his bottom. If you were straddling him then simply move down to his legs as you start to massage his buttocks. It’s up to you how intimate you want to make this part.
After placing the towel back over his bum, move to his legs and you are going to do them one at a time just as you did his shoulders & arms. Start with one thigh and work your way down to his calf, ankle, foot, and toes. Be careful if he is ticklish…you don’t want to ruin the aura! Repeat with his other leg.
This would be the intermission. Offer him some of his wine/beer/cheese and tell him you are ready for him to flip over so that you may work on his front. Replace the bath towel over his yummy bits.
Do the exact same thing you did to his back side, to his front side. You may want to start off with his face though, gently massaging his facial muscles and ears. Move to his neck and down both arms. Massage his chest and belly, being careful to not tickle. If your dh has an area of his body that is just extremely ticklish then you may need to skip that area.
At this point I would advise that you massage all around his yummy bits, but do not remove the towel and do not touch him. It may be better to use a smaller hand towel on him now, so that you can massage his upper thigh areas better. If you want to ‘accidentally-on-purpose’ allow your hand to graze by his penis that’s up to you, but try to work on finishing the massage before delving fully into sexual acts! Work down both front legs all the way to his toes, just like you did from the back. At this point his whole body should feel nice and relaxed.
It’s at this point where you can remove his blindfold if he has one on. You can also remove your clothes if you have any one. If you have decided that this will end with just a massage then his session is over. If you have decided that you want this to end with a sexual encounter, then now is the time to move over into that arena. You can then straddle him and remove the towel covering his loins. Drizzle more oils on him and start working your magic on his manhood. I’m sure you two can take it from here.
Of course you can change up any of this that you need to in order to suit your needs. I’ve found that I have one very satisfied husband when I finish. And of course, your husband can also follow the same steps and return the favor to you either on the same night (if you decided on a couple’s massage) or on a totally different night. If any of you decide to do this, please let us know how it goes!
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