Do you ever feel like your husband approaches you at some very inopportune times or frustrated because days turn into weeks without getting a physical connection with your husband? If so then it may be time for you to start scheduling times on a calendar for sex. Many women do not like the idea because they feel that scheduling takes away some of the spontaneity. I suppose it does to an extent but some aspects can be kept a mystery. You don’t need to discuss exactly where it will happen or what sex act will take place. I would much rather lose some spontaneity rather than dealing with the feeling of rejection. I know that in the past I have dropped hints (that I thought were blatantly obvious) only to find that my husband was clueless to my advances. This was our beginning stages of me realizing that he truly is not a mind reader. At the time I was feeling very frustrated and thought he was avoiding me and these feeling could have been avoided with better communication or simple scheduling. Another scenario where scheduling can help is if your husband approaches you at inopportune times such as when your friend is walking up to your front door so that you can watch her child for her. Putting things on a schedule assures that we are hearing each other and it is important enough to not let it just fall through the cracks. It is easy to say no, go about our business and not see how this may be affecting our spouse. Communication is so very important. If you have a spouse who wants to be there for you sexually but is having difficulties finding the time, don’t be shy to pull out a calendar or simply make a ‘date’ for later in the day. Once it is on that calendar it is a visual reminder for both of you and it gives you something to look forward too as well!! It can be exciting not knowing exactly what will happen on that special, marked day.
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