Didn’t you always want to know the answer to this question?
It’s amazing how many “controversial” pastors there are out there. By “controversial”, I mean, pastors who are willing to tell the truth, no matter what the cost…Remember Ed Young from Fellowship Church in Grapevine, TX and his Sex Experiment? How about inspirational speaker Joe Beam? On Facebook today, I read something amazing. Pastor Mark Driscoll (Mars Hill Church) wrote an article on Fox News about “What the Bible Really Says About Sex“. Amazing! Isn’t this what CN has been talking about for 4 years?
I’ve put the links above so you can do your own research, but from the article I couldn’t agree more with the following….
1. God created us male and female in His image and likeness: The helpmate that God made for Adam in the Garden of Eden was a woman. She completed him. “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24
2. Marriage by design is for one man and one woman only. “Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.” Genesis 2:25 Also Matthew 19:4-6 ” And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made[a]them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’[b] 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?[c] 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” This was one of the readings at my own wedding.
3. God created sex. When God created man and woman, they were deemed “very good”. (Genesis 2:24-25)
4. Sex outside of marriage is a sin. Ladies, I didn’t say it first… God said it first. God is my ultimate authority. Hebrews 13:4 “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. ”
5. There is NO shame in married sex. None, dear ones. There is no shame in your marriage bed with your husband. Keep your marriage bed between you and your spouse only and you will be generously BLESSED by God in your lovemaking. Do not defile it by adding sin to the mix. There should only be three in your sexual relationship…you, your spouse and God. Treasure and take pleasure in the gift He gave you on your wedding day!
May your fountain be blessed,
and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
A loving doe, a graceful deer—
may her breasts satisfy you always,
may you ever be intoxicated with her love.
Why, my son, be intoxicated with another man’s wife?
Why embrace the bosom of a wayward woman? Proverbs 5:18-20
Thank you, Pastor Mark, for speaking the truth in a world so ready to corrupt the most beautiful gift we will ever get from God.
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I’m grateful for Pastor Mark Driscoll willing to take all the flack he gets over his open communication about sex and marriage. Satan doesn’t want Christian couples to have awesome sex lives, but God does because it strengthens our marriages and just makes us happy:)
I agree with most of what you say. But “helpmate”? Where’s that in the Bible? Not in any version I’ve read. The AV has, “I will make him an help meet for him,” in Genesis 2:18. Note that it is two seperate words. “Meet” means suitable or appropriate. “Help” is the Hebrew word “ezer” (as in Ebenezer) and means recuer. It is most commonly used of God rescuing people who cannot rescue themselves. God provides a wife as a rescuer for her husband, that is someone who does for him what he CANNOT do for himself, not what he WILL NOT do or DOESN’T WANT to do. Every man is different and so needs a different kind of helper, a suitable helper, not some stereotypical “helpmate” in the sense usually meant by people who use this word.
For the record, I’m not some kind of Christian feminist. The Bible clearly teaches that wives should submit to their husbands but I believe the myth of a “helpmate” or “helpmeet” has done serious damage in some relationships where the needs of the husband are not met because the wife is trying to be someone the Christian world thinks she should be rather than the person her husband needs her to be.
Sermon over 🙂
Helpmate is the word that I use for helper. That’s what God called Eve. ““It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” (Genesis 2:18) A suitable helper.
I am reading McArthur’s Bible Commentary on that particular verse. It says, “The words of this verse emphasize man’s need for a companion, a helper, and an equal.” Just because we are our husband’s helper, doesn’t mean that we are in any way inferior. Adam was incomplete. God completed him with Eve.
“help meet for him” (KJV: Gen. 2:18). God did not create Eve to be in front of Adam nor behind him but beside him. A wife is not the slave of her husband nor he husband the slave of his wife: they are created as equal partners in married life. (Ephesians 5: 22-31)
I’m glad to see pastors speaking out about this. So much of religion seems to be built out of “don’t’s” for sex, and not enough attention is given to the “do’s.” It’s not enough to simply save yourself for marriage and then coast on trickling out sex to your spouse.