About MonogaBliss

I am excited about the brand new blog for me!   I would ask your prayers for me during this time of transition.   If you are a reader that has made their way over from Christian Nymphos, I want to welcome you to my new home!  I hope that it becomes your home, too.  It is my hope that by creating this new blog, that it would be easier for you to spread the word that GOD LOVES SEX and you should too within the bounds of your marriage!  For those of you who are new to either blog, I hope that you will bookmark my page and return to read articles and join in the comments.

I am Christian wife and mom to two wonderful children and I enjoy sex with my husband. I wasn’t always that way, either, so don’t be intimidated!   But first and foremost I consider myself a Christian. I belong to God and have a connection to Him because of my faith in the saving power of the work of Jesus Christ on the cross. This allows me to submit all of my sexual desires to his authority so that my expression of passion with my husband is healthy and appropriate.  I want to help other women to learn more about the joy of passionate, adventurous, but always monogamous sex. Thus the name of the blog…. Monogamous Bliss or Monogabliss!!

I am here to say to women everywhere:

“Be fully released to embrace all that God wants for your marriage! Ignite that intimacy with your husband, and grow in Christ together! Witness to others about Jesus, and at the same time, let them see you as a healthy, strong, happily married woman. Be a role model to other young women who need someone to look up to and talk to. Instruct them on marriage and don’t shy away from sexual questions they have. Young women need experienced women to talk to and get sound, Christian advice from. Let us honor God by showing these women what He wants for them in marriage!”

Sometimes we do feel abnormal where our sex drives are concerned.  It is not uncommon to hear women speaking negatively about sex. It is also not at all uncommon for us to hear people telling us that our sexual standards are rigid and uptight because we are so firm in our conviction that sex as God intended it is most intensely fulfilled within the marriage covenant.  It is my hope that through this blog, you will feel free in your marriage with your sexuality and learn that you are not alone.  There will be many sister’s in Christ that feel the same way you do.

Like Christian Nymphos, I will be heavily moderating this blog.  It is for MARRIED WOMEN ONLY.  I will not publish comments by men.   I do realize that this blog is open to the public, so anyone can read it, but I will not be publishing any comments from women who are obviously not married.   Engaged women will be heavily moderated.    I want this to be a safe place where married women can talk about issues that are either misconstrued or the church just doesn’t want to talk about.  Eventually, I will have a “Got Questions” page open that you can email me questions, but please realize and remember…. I am a wife, a mother, an employee, an employer, and a blogger, SO I might not get back to you in a timely manner.  I am not a doctor, therapist, psychiatrist or counselor by trade, so please don’t expect me to answer questions beyond my realm of expertise…which is being a devout Christian wife.

Please feel free to use the category listings, FAQ page and search box to find information on a variety of topics.  Please be sure to read my GUIDELINES page for important information you need to know about posting on the blog.  I have also brought over the links from the RESOURCE PAGE from Christian Nymphos.

I welcome all married women to enter my community at Monogabliss and interact with the articles. Just know that I speak from the heart. I write honestly and in some cases, bluntly.   I am not embarrassed or ashamed to talk about what the Lord has done in my life, including my marriage bed. (You will NEVER get explicit details…that I promise!) I hope you bookmark the blog and come back to read regularly!

Are you on Facebook?  Don’t forget to like my page!

So, how about it?  Ready for a new adventure with me?   Here we go on the road to MonogaBliss!

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14 thoughts on “About MonogaBliss

  1. Yea!!!!! I cant wait to see what you have in store! I loved reading all the posts over at Christian Nymphos and I have to say they have changed my life! I am now on my own journey of sexual discovery with my hubbie! I love all the support in the blogging world (I have my own Christian Marriage blog) and I am sending you many prayers and support in your new adventure! Thanks for continuing the converation!
    Peace and Smiles

  2. Waiting for the new year to start a good one with your new blog. Until then have a merry Christmas with your love ones and thanks for the time you take to improve our married lives.

  3. Hello ladies! I am new to both CN and this site. I stumbled upon CN a month or so ago. It has helped me tremendously already. I look forward to this new site, it already seems easier to use, and interacting with all of you ladies. It takes a lot for me to do something like this, I’m very shy not brave, so please pray that I can throw myself into this to really help myself and make my husband prouder of me than he already is! I have not posted before, so this is a monumental moment for me! Merry Christmas!

  4. Wow!!!! It was really difficult to find a way to comment to you!!! I accidentally stumbled onto your blog at Christian Nymphos, tried to log in to comment you, somehow ended up creating my own pitiful blog and 6 hours later I finally found this blog!!!! I feel like praising God for that small miracle lol!!!

    Truly, I started this journey to just say THANK YOU!!!! I have way way too long of a story and testimony, but to make it short in this area I have been perusing the filthy porn sites for about a month now. In hopes of learning more about sex, adventures with your husband, sex, etc, etc, etc. I’m sure you’ve heard it all before!! I was dumbfounded to accidentally find a Christian site that actually was very helpful, informative without being stereotypically scared of hellfire for mentioning the word sex and non-judgemdntal!!!!! Thank you:)

    I wanted you to know that in addition to helping me with my NORMAL sex questions and such, you were a great witness to my husband who is still struggling with the “all Christians are hippocrites”. Please keep up the great work! I am keeping y’all in my prayers.

  5. My dear MonogaBliss writers…

    I can’t even find the words to tell me where to begin to even start to express the smallest part of the magnitude of help Christian Nymphos brought me. Please accept my apologies in advance: this is most likely going to seem quite long… so might as well settle into a comfy chair with a cup of tea. :3 I’m your typical conservative Christian girl grown up in a typical conservative Christian family (for the most part). Oh I was also home schooled ……. in an e-x-t-r-e-m-e-l-y conservative video curriculum …… and while my parents did NOT make me do the whole skirts-only, no-make-up, never-cut-your-hair, never-bust-a-dance-groove thing, the one thing I never truly learned about was sex. When I started my menstruation, my very medically-trained mother gave me the super-scientific version of “the talk.” Just enough information to make it very boring. -.- I didn’t realize until about ten years later that there was a very valid reason why she gave me the boring version… That day I also did the celibacy vow thing. They even *cringe* –videotaped– a “ceremony” in which I agreed to vows my parents had written for me and Dad put a ring on my finger that I was supposedly to wear until I put my engagement ring on, and then at my wedding they would make a great big deal out of how they would take back the celibacy ring and *they*, not my husband, would hand me my wedding ring. That was one of those things that, in my young mind, “It seemed like a good idea at the time.” (P.S., I still have the ring in a very special box, it still means the same thing, and I’ll never break that vow of my own volition, but my growing hands not fitting the ring anymore was the perfect excuse to stop wearing this ring which was, it turns out, deterring the boys who thought it was an engagement ring.)

    From then on, Mom was very careful to make sure I knew that sex outside marriage was very bad. All I grew up with in school (for the one day in senior year Bible class that they did address that one small paragraph about marriage in my life management textbook) and church was that sex outside marriage is bad. Sex outside marriage is bad. Sex outside marriage is bad. He should love you for who you are on the inside, not for what sex you can give him. Sex outside marriage is bad.

    I don’t have to tell you that pretty soon, all I heard was “Sex is bad.” And I had it in my mind that sex was a necessary evil, no one understood why it felt so good, and you should only do it to make babies so you have to be married so you can. It was one of those things that became dirty, semi-sinful, as a result of the curse. Like one of those things that magically appeared to make us sin more. As if God said, “Ugh, I told you to populate the earth, so I guess go ahead and do that but just to be on the safe side, be married when you do. I’ll turn My head, let Me know when it’s over.” It didn’t help that Mom was willing if somewhat reluctant to talk to me about the problems that come from illicit sex, but never talked with me about sex in any positive way. And whenever I did ask a question about sex, the answer was *surprise surprise*, “You’ll find out when you’re married.”

    After so many years of that, it became abundantly clear that if I wanted to know about sexual intimacy with my husband, I wasn’t going to learn it from my mother. I finally (sinfully?) decided to do my OWN research on the subject. I found a book in my parents’ so-called “box of junk” called “The Act of Marriage: The Beauty of Sexual Love” by Tim and Beverly LaHaye (Tim LaHaye is one of the co-authors of the Left Behind series, if you didn’t know! :) ). So when Mom and Dad would go to the store, I’d go read that book, a little at a time. Eventually I got a little more comfortable with the fact that God created sex for married people to enjoy. I learned from that book that there was something called an orgasm!! My brain couldn’t even wrap around what LaHaye said next… God smiles when married people orgasm!!! O_O

    The LaHayes kept referring back to Song of Solomon, so I decided it was probably a good idea to read this book of the Bible that no one in my family or in my church ever addressed. I started reading it and I was absolutely SHOCKED!! What…. the HECK?! The Bible talking about sex?! Just, like, open and honest and right out there?!?! GOD talked about SEX?! I read the phrase about “thy *breasts* are like two young roes that are twins,” and thought I’d just opened Pandora’s Box.

    In my middle-teen years, a magazine for Christian teens, Relevant Magazine (for which my best friend now professionally writes, btw!!!), suggested that sexual boundaries should be less of what I can’t/am not allowed to do/avoid sin and more of what I want to keep special for my future husband. That planted a seed.

    I pretty much scoured everything the Bible had to say about sex, and, the Word finally exhausted (or so I thought, hehe), set out on (eep!!) the internet. “What do Christians believe about sex?” Finally about a year ago, I came across Christian Nymphos. I couldn’t believe some of the things I was reading. You mean … creative sex is okay? Oh I did NOT just read that oral sex was okay …. but Mom always said tha–….. hold on I gotta read that again ….. oh would you look at that ….. Huh. A little gross at first perhaps, but … yeah I can totally understand how that’s not, well, “wrong.” Wait what was that about lingerie and (oh I shudder to say it…toys??) Hm. Wow. This all totally makes sense. Complete sense. Christians can have sex lives *this* *good*??? Maaaan, I wanna be marriiiieeed……..

    I’ve read nearly everything on CN, and now have what I truly feel deep down in my most discerning spirit is a wonderful, holy, blessed understanding of married sex. You ladies (and the men that would occasionally chip in!) have helped me put sex into the positive instead of the negative. “Sex outside marriage is bad,” became, “Married sex is AWESOME!!!” “I won’t have sex outside marriage,” became, “Even though I have no idea who my future husband is, I already love him so much that I want to keep all of this for him and him alone.” Of course the older I get and the lonelier I get, the latter becomes, “…and I sure hope he appreciates it because this loneliness thing sucks.” ;) But you see what I mean.

    By starting now and learning everything I can learn–well no, how about *almost* everything I can learn–I am so excited to be able to give all these wonderful things to my husband if I ever get one. By getting comfortable with all the wonderful things about married sex now, I can get past all this “Good girls don’t do that” so I can concentrate on being his wife.

    Now the only thing I have to worry about is sifting out what I hear from my poor mother, who, due to a hard childhood and totally clueless wedding night as well as leeching negative messages from feminist/women’s lib media, had taken to confiding in *me* about her sex life with Dad. Lack thereof, actually. While I don’t believe that parents should burden their children with their sex problems, I know that I am the only one she can talk to, because I am, quite literally, her only friend. :’( And I also try to eat the meat and spit out the bones… and the bones that I spit out are those attitudes towards marriage in general that I find to be in direct conflict with the Word of God. Attitudes which YOUR BLOG has helped me recognize and determine in my heart that I will strive to avoid in my own marriage. Sex = punishment/reward system, I make you feel good only if you make me feel good, sex is on my terms, etc. (Additionally) I disagree with that opinion and after all I’m an adult, you don’t control me, I take care of the bill-paying so you don’t tell me how to do it, I don’t agree with that spiritual concept and I think you should agree with me, you should take us to a different church …. the list goes on and on.

    My marriage and its sexual side has always been a very important part of my heart and desire for the future … A #1 on my bucket list … and to have this group of wonderful sisters (and brothers) in Christ who freely talk about marital intimacy according to the Word of God, to have this safe unpolluted environment to learn about it, … it’s just priceless to me. I still don’t know how “Christian” it was of me to take my sexual education into my own hands, especially since my mom told me outright she didn’t want me learning about sex from anyone except her. But even though the ends don’t always justify the means, I do feel that God led me to your blog, and has spoken to me in my research, telling me what He wants me (all women) to know about His plan for this amazing gift He has given to us humans. From the deepest part of my young and hopelessly romantic heart, thank you. Thank you so very much. The impact your work will have on my marriage will be the difference between mediocrity and true bliss for me in my future. When I am happily married to the love of my life (assuming the best), I will remember you lovely people and your passion for passion.

    ~*~ Philippians 1:3 ~*~
    With all love and gratitude in Christ,
    Witness in the Silence

    • It’s stories like these that make our ministry so worthwhile. I believe God is smiling on you. Your future husband is a very lucky man. Stay true and close to God. He will provide the intimacy you need and the information you need to prepare you for your husband. God is good…all the time! :) Thanks for the smile!

  6. I’m a new reader and stumbled across your old site today. This is great!! I cant wait to share it with my friends.

  7. I am fairly new to this site and the Christian Nymphos site. All I have to say is where were you guys in the 90′s when I first started dating and got married? :) If I would have been able to see all of this back then, I would have had a totally different viewpoint of sex. I have been married for 17 years and in the past year, my husband and I’s sex life has gone from stale to FABULOUS! And what makes if fabulous and GOD!! He has come in and truly healed this area of our marriage and it is in a way that I can’t really put into words. When we committed to doing it God’s way, instead of our way, we have truly been blessed by it.

    Thank you for your ministry. Thank you for your courage and thank you for your openess. I will be visiting your site frequently. :)

    • Welcome to the site! I am so glad you found me and also the Christian Nymphos site. Me, personally, did not get married until the mid 90′s, and would never have thought to do anything like this…haha. I hope to hear more from you as you play catch up on both sites!

  8. Here’s an idea to spice things up – ask DH to go to the mall with you. When he protests, tell him you will make it worth his while. Take some really racy stuff in to the fitting room to try on and come out to see his eyes pop out. He will not complain if you go for three or four. If no one is around, you can do a bend to put some steam on his glasses on your way back in. It is so easy to please a guy. Isn’t it love to give him what he longs for? Just be sure to buy something for date night because the store has to make money too and they have helped your love life.

  9. I’m so glad to have found this site! I got married in September and I’ve poured over the CN site for months (even a bit before I was married). I’m so pleased to see that the godly women at that site have continued the blog…and that I found it! :)

    • Yeah, there is one of me now, but my Spice sisters have graciously allowed me to republish their articles in hopes of keeping CN alive even though we aren’t posting on it anymore. Hope to see you here more often.

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