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I was perusing The Generous Wife website again, and I came upon this article on Doing something nice for your hubby every hour on the hour…. This can be a weekend thing, since we usually have more time on the weekend….
The author suggested the following….
Kiss him or flash him.
Give him a small gift (this will take a bit of planning).
Pay him a compliment.
Buy a bag of flavored jelly beans, taste and guess the flavor.
Let’s make a list of other ideas of what we could do for them…. they don’t have to be expensive, as a matter of fact, free is the best! Then let’s try it this weekend….
I found this article on One Flesh Marriage. It is, of course, from a man’s point of view, but sometimes for us ladies, it is good to see things through our hubby’s eyes on occasion instead of our own. Now my hubby is not a lingerie kinda guy. He would much rather there be nothing on at all.
I used to purchase lingerie all the time. My train of thought…”it’s sexy and he will really like it”. When he wasn’t really crazy about it, I thought, “oh, I just bought the wrong one.” and would buy a different one. Instead of listening to him say, “I would rather you be naked”, I was hearing what I wanted to hear. Eventually, I stopped buying it because it was a waste of money. That’s when I started listening to him.
Now on a rare occasion, I will pull out a sheer nighty to wear without panties, just because I like the way it feels and the way it makes me feel.
Is your man a lingerie type of guy?
Okay, I know personally, this is something I need to get better at. I think the Aspie in me finds it really hard to get out of my comfort zone at times with my hubby, and I am trying to break free of this.
Then I read this article that I read from The Marriage Bed’s Facebook page. (Seven Ways to Flirt with Your Husband) I remember trying a few of these a long time ago!! (Yes, I put panties in his tuba case…. when he pulled out a mouthpiece to play it, he pulled out panties….) I also put them in his glove box once, too, I think…. or maybe over his rear view mirror…. well, I definitely don’t want him to get fired, so maybe texts or post it notes it shall be!
It gave me some new ideas on how to flirt with my hubby, but surely we can come up with more than 7. What things do YOU do to flirt with your hubby? I’ve squeezed his bottom in public ;-) and I have also kissed him for no apparent reason other than he just needed kissed. What works for you?
In light of the fact that this week is Valentine’s Day, I wanted to share a devotional that I read from a book called Daily Grace for Women. Since I am copying the devotion, I want to be sure to give full credit to this book. It’s on p. 39.
It’s been called a phenomenon, a mysterious and splendid thing. It’s as invisible as the air we breathe, yet equally essential Poets have tried to descr ibe it. Philosophers have sought to understand it. Songwriters have mined from their hearts the emotional treasure it evokes. But the mystery and miracle of love remains indescribable. What an amazing gift God has given us – not only to observe, but also to miraculously experience! His Word proclaims it to be greater than hope and faith.
Long before St. Valentine was adopted as the patron saint of lovers, God’s love was the foundation of true love. Because of the romantic symbols we use to celebrate Valentine’s Day, we forget that St. Valentine actually lost his life because of his love for God. Beyond the glamour of roses and chocolates that help us celebrate the world’s view of romantic love, we find a man who gave his all for the love of his Savior.
Love is the deepest and most fulfilling gift God has ever given us. That gift transcends outward symbols and trivial attempts to explain it. Without His love, we wouldn’t experience God’s mercy, His Salvation or His joy. Once received, the deep abiding love of Christ in our hearts will overflow into every aspect of our lives. Real love, the kkind of love that sacrificed all for you and me, came in human form to unite our hearts to God’s.
Do you desire to love more and experience more love in your life? God’s word encourages, “If we love one another, God abides in us, and His love is perfected in us” (1 John 4:12 NASB)
Celebrate the sacred bliss of true love. Wrap yourself and others in this extraordinary gift that was hand delivered from Heaven by the Author and Creator of love.
As you approach Valentine’s Day, remember where love first came from…your Father in Heaven. If it wasn’t for His love, we would have no love at all.
My hubby and I went on a date night this past weekend. We had to sit long and hard and think about when our last date night was….. it was too long ago! We take for granted nights that we “work” together playing in a band together…. cause we do these without the kids, but it’s not really just time about us.
So we went out to have dinner using a gift card I received for Christmas, then we went to see Lincoln at the movie theater (again, with a gift card!) and afterwards, we went out for ice cream. It was the first time in a long time that the conversations didn’t revolve around the kids!
If there is one thing I have gotten better at over the years, is being able to let go of the kids and focus on my hubby when we go out on dates. It is nice to be able to give our 16 year old some money and say “take your sister out to dinner” and not have to worry about them being at home. They get to go eat where they want to and have a “parent free” night, and we get to enjoy being a couple for a short period of time.
Do you make regular date night time with your hubby? How often do you go out? Where do you get inexpensive date ideas?
There are times when I feel like a turtle…I creep back into my shell and don’t really want to face something new.It’s scary…it’s intimidating….it’s….naughty?
My hubby and I had a great date night one evening awhile back.We went to dinner and to see a movie… nothing out of the ordinary….except that night, I chose to come out of my comfort zone…
It is so easy to stay within your comfort zone.Especially for me, but that night, I did something that I thought was very daring.I dressed up in a dress that I would not normally wear.I am a tomboy, but this dress was rather skimpy according to my terms.While at the restaurant, I excused myself to go to the bathroom, and while there, I removed my thong panty and stuck it in my purse.Later when we left the restaurant and before we got to the theater, I made a plan to reveal to my hubby that I was now commando in the movie.That for me was a major step out of my comfort zone!I stuck the thong in the pocket of his jacket.I believe he really liked it that I was being so daring.We were trying to get into the back row of the theater to “do some business”, but it was packed…we settled for the front row.He had plans, too…he had LUBE in his pocket!Needless to say, during the movie, with his coat over his lap and mine, he fingered me to a couple of orgasms during the movie….with a young couple just a few seats away from us!It was so exhilarating!
On the way home, I gave him a blow job in the car while he was driving…not the safest thing in the world, but it was so much fun.(He drove quite well, too)By the time we got home, we were wishing the sitter could drive herself home!When he got back from taking the sitter home, there was some really good lovin’ that night!
Coming out of your comfort zone can add a lot of spice to your marriage bed.It most certainly did for ours!
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My husband loves sex with the light on.He is a very visual person, and he loves to watch us making love.He loves taking in the visual sights of my body. He loves it with oral sex when he can see what I am doing to him or what he is doing for me.
I, on the other hand, would rather it be dark.I enjoy losing the sense of sight because it enhances my 4 other senses.I pick up sounds and touch so much more than if I can see.It leaves me to visualize in my head his thrusting and I can concentrate on the internal feeling of his penis inside me.
So what is our compromise?Candles.
Candles can be many small votive candles, or a few larger ones.They can be scented or unscented.The mood is so much more romantic than direct light.The flickering of the candles cast cool, sensual shadows on the walls.The light from the candles is so different, making the room feel warmer, more romantic.It can help the visual spouse to see what they want to, while allowing the spouse who likes the dark to have still have a darkened room to make love in.
One of my most romantic memories with candles was on my birthday.He tossed my satin robe out the bedroom door, locked the door and told me I couldn’t come in until he called me.When I finally entered the room, I didn’t recognize my bedroom.It looked as though there were a hundred sparkling lights in the room.The room looked so warm and inviting.It was a very awesome birthday present.
Another thing we have tried to meet each other half way was by using black lights. My husband went out and bought a few replacement light bulbs for our bedside lamps.The result was a darker room with a purplish glow.It was pretty cool.The whole room wasn’t neon, but it was a nice darker compromise and when he would slather me with coconut oil, the sight of my glisteny body did wonders for his visual nature.
If you are interested in more ways to romanticize your bedroom, be sure to check out this article by my good friend Cinnamonsticks.