How do I make the transition from what I think in my head, to what I actually do in my bed? While my DH is away or at work I can imagine the types of things I would like to do or try sexually but when it’s show time, I have a hard time following through. Any suggestions?
Ah, my dear reader, you just snuck inside my head! I will confess that I am not the greatest with my imagination. I don’t spend a lot of time thinking in my head what I would like to do with my hubby. For example, last night in bed, I thought, “Wouldn’t it be great if I just rolled over right on top of him and said, ‘now what do you want to do?’ ” It sounded like a great way to start something with him, and I do not initiate as often as he does, so I was feeling really great about it. Until I looked to my left, and there he was, and for some darn reason…. I just couldn’t do it! FINALLY, I said to myself, “Look, stupid…you’re married to this wonderful man. He’s a hunk. You love him. You know you love making love to him, JUST DO IT.” I HATE having to talk myself into doing things as innocuous as this…. For the life of me, I wish I could be more like I was right after my awakening…. I really need to work on this.
My advice, just do it. He will probably love it! My DH’s answer to my question last night….. “Well, I can think of several things we can do….” This is the man you chose to marry. This is the man who loves you more than anything in the world. This is the man who will probably LOVE what kinky stuff is going on in your mind. Just do it! As long as the two of you are into it and not doing anything immoral or illegal, just do it!
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