From my head to my bed….

How do I make the transition from what I think in my head, to what I actually do in my bed?  While my DH is away or at work I can imagine the types of things I would like to do or try sexually but when it’s show time, I have a hard time following through.  Any suggestions?

Ah, my dear reader, you just snuck inside my head!  I will confess that I am not the greatest with my imagination.  I don’t spend a lot of time thinking in my head what I would like to do with my hubby.   For example, last night in bed, I thought, “Wouldn’t it be great if I just rolled over right on top of him and said, ‘now what do you want to do?’ ”  It sounded like a great way to start something with him, and I do not initiate as often as he does, so I was feeling really great about it.   Until I looked to my left, and there he was, and for some darn reason…. I just couldn’t do it!  FINALLY, I said to myself, “Look, stupid…you’re married to this wonderful man.  He’s a hunk.  You love him.  You know you love making love to him, JUST DO IT.”   I HATE having to talk myself into doing things as innocuous as this…. For the life of me, I wish I could be more like I was right after my awakening…. I really need to work on this.

My advice, just do it.   He will probably love it!  My DH’s answer to my question last night….. “Well, I can think of several things we can do….”   This is the man you chose to marry.  This is the man who loves you more than anything in the world.  This is the man who will probably LOVE what kinky stuff is going on in your mind.  Just do it!  As long as the two of you are into it and not doing anything immoral or illegal, just do it!

Anyone else want to post some suggestions for this reader?

4 thoughts on “From my head to my bed….

  1. Haha…I’ll just say I have exactly the same issue. I have good ideas sometimes, but I often chicken out or get discouraged if my hubby doesn’t immediately respond. :-P I think it’s just a matter of practice…I always enjoy myself when I do make the first move, but it’s nerve wracking at the same time!

  2. You’re probably thinking about too many things to do. Pick just one at a time and not a choreographed scene. Just one new thing at a time is more than enough to really spark it. Do that new thing a few times so you get good at it and then once you have that down add in another.

  3. Still beaming and feeling sexy right about now. Took your advice, dropped my inhibitions and had an awesome night. I initiated sex with my DH, took control and got lost in the passion. And it wasn’t as awkward as I thought it would be. The expressions on his face said it all and I enjoyed being the one who caused it. Baby sitter, $20. Dinner, $40. Smile on hubby’s face, priceless! Thanks Spicy for the advice.

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