Your challenge is to be sure to always tell your husband when sex is good. Tell him how amazing it is to make love to him.
In Position #24: Shower Sex, Cinnamonsticks described a position where you are facing your husband. In this sequel, I’ll be talking about a position facing away from your husband. Please note that in this position you will need a very sturdy shower rod.
For this position the couple is in the shower. The wife turns to face the side of the tub and the husband stands behind her facing the same way. The wife lifts one leg and puts it up on the side of the tub, and then reaches up and holds on to the shower rod to keep her stabilized. (This will only work if you have a very sturdy shower rod. If your shower rod is a simple tension rod that can fall easily then please do not attempt this.) The husband is able to enter from behind and hold on to his wife’s hips to help with thrusting while she is holding on (not hanging on, there is a difference) to the shower rod above. You can see a picture of this position on Cosmo by clicking here.
Pros: You get to enjoy making love while having hot water cascading down you both!
Cons: Couples with large height differences may have a problem with this position.
I was married and moved to a foreign (3rd world) country a couple days later. My husband I were having great sex for about two weeks. I had no pain on the honeymoon (we were both virgins). Then I developed a yeast infection. Since the infection, intercourse (just the initial penetration) has been painful.
Will this go away? I’ve read a bit in your site on how vaginismus can be triggered by a yeast infection. If I’ve developed vaginismus, is it permanant? All the cures/remidies seem to involve going to a doctor and I don’t have the option of going to a doctor here, so I thought I’d write for advice. Thanks!
We received this letter from a woman and wanted to share the answer we provided her with in case it is of help to any other women suffering with this.
If you have access to sour cream or plain yogurt in the country you are in you should use it to treat the yeast infection. I advise that you eat it every day and also treat yourself topically with it. I would also be a good idea use it on your husband too so you don’t pass the infection back and forth. You can use it during sex, as well. Just make sure that if you opt to use yogurt that it is plain because the sugars in the flavored ones will not be helpful at all. They will actually increase the likelihood of having poor female health.
So for those who don’t have the limitations that this writer has of living in a third world country and not having access to common treatments available in developed nations, you might find this information helpful if you deal with frequent yeast infections or a particularly bad one. Just a helpful tip.
I was reading down my facebook page, and came upon this article linked to from Shannon Ethridge’s page….
My first thought was …. WHY??? Then I preceded to read the article, and I still thought WHY??? (Of course, I have read this article is a satire and not true, but let’s talk about it anyway)
I was really seriously confused as I read this originally as to why two professing Christians were abstaining from sex in their marriage at all…. I highly respect them for abstaining before their marriage, but after? It makes me wonder to what extreme these two were brought up on sex. He eats a whole raw potato when he has “bedroom thoughts.” They can’t even come to say they sexually desire their spouse. She sprays cool mist water on her face. I’d rather my hubby squirt chocolate syrup, whipped topping and a cherry on me… lol So why?
” for us it’s about staying faithful to the abstinence message and the holiness involved with that,” says Jon who seems unbothered. “For us, true love waits, and waits, and waits.”
They are a cute couple. I wish the article mentioned what religion they practiced so I could try to understand this more. These two might as well just be roommates.
If you are single or newly married, God has given you a gift. It’s the gift that keeps on giving. God intended for man to leave his father and mother and be united with his wife. The two are supposed to become one flesh, intimately united to one another. (read Genesis 2:24) God wants you to make love to your husband and enjoy each other’s bodies sexually. It is a spiritual act of worship to God who gave you this wonderful thing called marriage.
I pray for them that this abstinence doesn’t cause them to stumble into sin and that someone who truly understands scripture can convince them that this isn’t healthy for their marriage.
Tell your hubby you need some change, then put your hand in his pocket, but don’t look for change! ;-)
The sunny side up position can be used for either oral pleasure and/or intercourse. It is a form of basic missionary position with the husband on top with a little twist. You will be on your back but instead of having to hold your legs in the air or wrapping them around your husband they will be held up with either ankle/thigh restraints or a soft fabric. Your husband may be better off kneeling, rather than lying on top of you, when entering. If you are using a soft fabric be careful that you don’t make the knot too tight. Cutting off circulation would not be a good thing.
The wonderful thing about this position is that you can just lie back and relax. It is great for the husband because he can have a fantastic view without worrying if your legs are getting tired. If you don’t have bedposts to tie to then you can look around your house for an alternative to use. Just make sure it is sturdy and that it doesn’t come down on top of you in the heat of the moment. If you have a dating husband you could even have him put his legs in the restraints while you perform some ‘Advanced Oral Techniques’ on him. 8)
Pros~ Very relaxing position for the wife.
~ Great view for husband.
Con~ Difficult to change positions spontaneously
~ Legs could fall asleep if left this way for an extended amount of time.
When was the last time you surprised your husband, by sliding into the shower with him? Showering together can be such a sensual act. I mean, you’re naked, he’s naked, the water is hot and steamy, and you have water beads rolling down your body. What a perfect setting for some intimate moments.
I want to issue a challenge to you women out there. I want you to plan a time that you can join your husband in the shower. Maybe after he’s had a long day at work. Maybe on a weekend night before bed. Just slip out of your clothes and join him. Take the soap or body wash and lather up his chest, shoulders, and arms. Then turn him around and get his back and neck. Have him get on his knees (if he’s much taller than you) and wash his hair for him. Take your time and run your fingers through his hair sensually. Let him feel your naked body against his as the water falls on you both.
Then have him stand again and tell him you need to finish washing him. Lather up your hands and proceed to wash his genitals. Make sure you are easy with his testicles. Feeling your hands caressing and fondling may indeed begin to make him hard! Make sure you wash his penis thoroughly, and rinse everything off too. Then you can just let things happen as they happen. The possibilities are endless. Sensual kissing under the water, holding each other, exchanging words of love, manual sex, oral sex, and vaginal sex are all hot in the shower! And if you’ve never experienced an orgasm while hot water poured down on top of you, you don’t know what you’re missing!
Your shower may end in the bedroom, with just a quick dry off. Other times, you may end up doing oral or vaginal sex in the shower. And then there are those times when sex isn’t even needed. Just that touch, that closeness. Cleaning each other and just being together after a hectic day.
I know that it’s hard to sometimes fit this in, especially if you have young children at home. But if you ever do get a chance to do this, you should go for it! Yes, this would definitely be counted as instigating, and some of us could do a little more of that! Just think about it and see how things go in the next week or so. You never know when the opportunity may just present itself to you.