Archive | March 2013

POTW: Coital Alignment Technique (CAT)

The CAT technique is a modified version of missionary. We use our own version of it often in this house. It has been criticized for being complicated, yet many couples seem to love this position. This technique is all about getting pressure applied to the clitoris. That makes sense, because we all know that clitoral stimulation is most often what women need for orgasm to take place anyway.

In this position, the husband enters from on top, as in missionary. He then moves his body upward a little, so that the base of his penis, or his pubic bone, is applying pressure to the wife’s clitoris. Then, instead of just thrusting in and out like a piston, the couple takes turns rocking back and forth, keeping constant pressure on the wife’s clitoris. The husband isn’t able to achieve deep penetration this way, but it does help to arouse the wife. She needs to be mostly in control of this give and take. It is all about constant pressure with subtle movements from both partners continuing. For more information on this position, click here.

The wife can fold her feet around her husband’s legs to gain leverage for doing her own thrusting. The key to this technique is for both spouses to be moving their pelvis, not just the husband. It works best if he does not have to hold himself up on his hands or arms. He can lay down halfway on top of his wife, leaning part of his weight to one side of her, while wrapping his arms around her back and holding her tight. I’ve looked for an illustration or sketch of this technique online, but it really can’t be showed in a picture. All pictures of it just end up looking like regular missionary position. There is another site that gives specific steps for mastering this technique, located here.

The CAT can be used to sufficiently arouse the wife to the point where she is almost at orgasm. Then the husband can start thrusting like normal missionary while the woman is experiencing her orgasm. Often times this can result in almost simultaneous orgasms!

Pros: This position gives clitoral stimulation to the wife. It also allows for kissing and closeness.

Cons: Coital Alignment Technique does not allow for deep penetration. It can take the husband a little while to get the hang of it, because it isn’t about thrusting.

Throwback Thursdays: Erotic Letters

I love hearing my husband tell me all the sexual things he wants to do to me.  Reading about the sexual things he wants to do to me is a very close second.  I am a very visual person and when he sets the scenarios through his writing I am at that place and time.  I love it!!  You can start by writing a paragraph and then take turns expounding on that thought.  It can be a real life event that has already happened or think up a brand new, never been done encounter.  When my husband goes away on business he will sometimes place one of these stories in a spot where I will just happen to come across them.  He leaves them in my bed, in an email, on my computer stand or in my car.  Cuddling up with one of his letters sometimes leads to a special phone call but that is another topic.

What are the benefits of writing letters?  These letters are a great way to ‘experience’ something that you never would in real life.   You can also pretend to be something that you are not.  I’ll give you an example.  I truly dislike flying.  How those pretty, shiny, heavy, shark shaped things stay in the air is beyond me.  I will go on airplanes but I do a lot of praying beforehand.  In my letters I can be a flight attendant or even a pilot if I wanted to be.  It also allows you to talk about a thought or fantasy that you may be embarrassed to bring up face to face.  If there is something you want to try but too shy to bring up this may open the door for discussion.

The first time I did send my husband an erotic note he was kind of beside himself.  I think he was overwhelmed.  If you are thinking that yours may get overwhelmed then just send a short, steamy text message to his phone and see how he reacts.  Even a short note describing what you loved about your last encounter may be a way to ease into it.  Who knows, this new erotic letter could be your next fantasy come true!!!

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Reader Questions: Sex at the Beach

Hi I just have a quick question. I know you guys don’t like engaged people on here I just was wondering something. For my honeymoon my fiancee and I  are going to the coast. Without planning it I’m assuming we will end up on the beach at some point and I was just wondering if the saltwater would burn or cause yeast infection during water sex? Thanks for the help!

So, for anyone who has ever had sex at the beach, on the beach or in the ocean, what were your experiences with saltwater and intercourse?