This chapter brought back a question I always used to ask…. King David… the man after God’s own heart…. why would he cheat on his wife and murder his adultress’ husband? I mean really? Then I am reminded, that even people who seem to have it all, really don’t. They have sin, too.
I don’t think I would ever commit adultery. I love and adore my husband so much. He is so patient with me, and he loves me even when I am unlovable…. which now is a really good time to love me unconditionally when I am starting through perimenopause… lol. But that doesn’t ever stop thoughts, does it? I mean, I don’t ever think my way into lusting over another man…. but sometimes Satan will take a vision of someone that is attractive in some way and play it around in your brain. Some one with good looks…. someone with an extremely caring heart…. someone with an awesome talent…. someone who just understands you better…. well, the attraction is there somehow. Any time Satan tries to creep into my mind about something that I see that he (Satan) perceives that is lacking in my marriage, I sing him away. Sing praise songs to God about just about anything…. I don’t memorize scripture very well, but I do remember song lyrics….then I go find them in the bible. They are usually there. Put a scripture to music, and I am there.
I saw this picture on Facebook this past Sunday from a cartoon called “Maxine”. I think most of you are familiar with her cranky, sarcastic cartoons. Sometimes I laugh at them and repost them on my facebook page, but this one, I said, “No, I actually don’t agree with you this time, Maxine.” Here it is….
This is so not true! This (romance novels) is what got me in trouble in the first place! Expecting men to be like the ones in romance novels. I spent too many years before meeting my DH looking for those men! Sleeping with the wrong men who I thought would be like them…. and even when I met my hubby, he was nothing like any of those men, but God gave me the green light to marry him. “This is who I have chosen for you, my child.”
She gives six things to remember about temptation….
1. WHO: It can happen to anyone. I watched as an ELDER of a former church got involved in an affair with a woman on the Praise team (he was the Praise leader) This man I always looked up to as a highly spiritual man, but it still happened to him….just like King David. Guard your hearts, ladies!
2. WHAT: Sex isn’t the only tempter, even though it is a big one in this world….money, power, desire…. Satan knows what you desire the most, and believe me, he will use it to tempt you into sin. God can give you the strength to resist it. Ask him to help you!
3. WHEN: Anytime, and especially when you least expect it. Don’t think you can handle it alone. It is always serious no matter when it happens.
4. WHERE: Anywhere…. on the metro bus on the way to work, at work, at church, at home… anywhere. If there is a certain man that tempts you, don’t be around him. Separate yourself from the temptation at all costs.
5. WHY: Satan knows what God has planned for you, and he wants to distract you from it knowing there are pleasures that you would rather seek than doing God’s will. You never realize that it’s not only you that gets hurt by your sin, but others, too, as well. Temptation comes your way, then FLEE!
6. HOW: Doesn’t matter how…. Wherever your weakness is, the how will find you. I like the way she says “it’s a set up by the enemy intended to bring you down” Don’t let him bring you down. Put on the full armor of God, put up that shield, and tell it to be gone!
When you feel the urge….the temptation… that is when you start praying. It really works. If you are like me, and don’t memorize verses well, most of you know the Lord’s Prayer … “Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil….” (Matthew 6:13) Pray “Lord, guide me away from this temptation and keep me safe from Satan and his lies. Show me the truth.”
The leader of my Ladies Bible study who has become a very good friend to me, said once when evaluating if something is from God, put it to the Philippians 4:8 test… “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” Thinking about that man who is tempting you … is that thought true? (no), is that thought noble (no), is that thought right? (definitely not), is that thought pure? (nope), is that thought lovely (it might seem lovely, but in the grand scheme of things…no), is it admirable? (ummmm…no), is it excellent? is it praiseworthy? If the answer to ANY one of these questions is no, then it’s not of God. Actually, she told me if you ask the first question and the answer is no, there is no need to go on….. it nullifies that thought right there as not biblical or being from God. God would never tell you to cheat on your husband with another man. God wants us to think of things that are true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent and praiseworthy…. if your answers are all yes (truthfully yes, not tempted to say yes because that is the way you feel), you can tell that it is from God.
Feelings….that’s a whole nother post!
In what ways do you use to overcome temptation? Do you wish to share?