Archive | April 2012

Never Alone

Psalm 13

 1 How long, LORD? Will you forget me forever?
   How long will you hide your face from me?
2 How long must I wrestle with my thoughts
   and day after day have sorrow in my heart?
   How long will my enemy triumph over me?

 3 Look on me and answer, LORD my God.
   Give light to my eyes, or I will sleep in death,
4 and my enemy will say, “I have overcome him,”
   and my foes will rejoice when I fall.

 5 But I trust in your unfailing love;
   my heart rejoices in your salvation.
6 I will sing the LORD’s praise,
   for he has been good to me.

In this psalm, the writer found himself feeling so alone, so seemingly abandoned by God, that he was plunged into a deep depression and despair that took him to the edge of death. He was wrestling with his thoughts. His sorrow was overwhelming.

Perhaps you can relate to such feelings. Perhaps you know what it’s like when your thoughts are whirling around in aching confusion. You may know what it’s like to plead with God for light, for peace, for an alternative to the spiritual death you think is imminent.

Then comes the “but.” The psalmist, even as he was suffering terribly, stopped himself with that little word. David chose to trust in God’s goodness even when his heart was failing and grieving. Because he knew God, he chose to trust in God’s unfailing love and rejoice even in the midst of sorrow.

Did you get that? He said, “But . . . I will” (verses 5-6). The psalmist made a choice. He made a conscious decision to trust in God’s love even when the dark clouds of terror and depression hid God’s face.

David knew this as a fact. And you can know it too: You are never alone. God is always nearby . . . even when you can’t see his face or feel his presence. When you feel alone, call out to him. No matter how you feel, the fact remains: He is here. He is everywhere. And he hears your cries.

(taken from a Women’s devotion)

Chapter 15: Lord, Guide Me in All My Relationships

I realized between all the busyness of my life, I forgot to put this chapter up!  Sorry for the delay!!

The first part of the chapter about the gangs really saddened me.  It saddens me because we all were born with the need for relationships.  These poor kids grew up with a big hole in their heart….one they tried to fill probably as a child, but they knew something was missing… a relationship.   And when their families and friends didn’t fill it, they looked for some way that they could feel they belong.   It saddens me that they would feel that they would need to murder someone to belong.

I’ve known a lot of Christians who once they accept Christ as their Savior, they don’t find a church body to grow and be loved and to love.   I was one of those.  I searched and searched when I was first saved, and when I couldn’t find anything to fill the bill, I stopped trying.  I am sure that Satan was purely happy about that.  It gave him time to work really hard on me to doubt my salvation, since nothing seemed to go easily once I got saved…it actually got harder.

It wasn’t until I was married and our son was 3, did we find what I called a church home.   A body of believers, who at first loved us unconditionally while we got to know the church, and then who encouraged us to serve and to be served.   There was so much love in that body of Christ, it was incredible.

Her section on friends is incredible.   I always used to think that something was wrong with me because I really don’t have very many close friends.   Stormie helped me to see that the close friends I have, even though there aren’t many, are just the friends that God has chosen to help me imitate him.    As I read her “Seven Good Signs of a Desirable Friend”, my friends all fit the bill….

1.A desirable friend tells you the truth in love.

2. A desirable friend gives you sound advice.

3. A desirable friend refines you.

4. A desirable friend helps you grow in wisdom.

5. A desirable friend stays close to you.

6. A desirable friend loves you and stands by you.

7. A desirable friend is a help in times of trouble.

My closest friends are my coworkers.   I literally cringe every time I hear them call my their “boss” in a phone conversation or to families that we serve because I was their friend before I was their boss.   They are truly beautiful Christian people who love God and who love me.  I need to start praying more for these ladies.   They are my true friends whom God has blessed me with.

Have you ever evaluated your friends?  Do they build you up, or do they tempt you to sin?  Are they in God’s Word or are the foolish followers of the world?  Do they give you good advice or ungodly counsel?   Pray for the friends in your life.  If you have some undesirable friends, pray that God would give you wisdom about them….are you planting a seed or do you need to let them go.

Again, sorry this is so late.  It was a very good chapter to read and one that made me realize that even though my friends are few, my friends are good, strong Christians who are just who I need.

Throwback Thursdays: Touching yourself

Orgasm… It’s a wonderful euphoric feeling. It’s a high. It’s a stress reducer. It’s also something that can be learned. Masturbation for women can serve several purposes:

  1. It can give a good quick orgasm when one is needed.
  2. It can rev up your sex drive.
  3. It can help you learn how to orgasm more easily with your husband.

So, how should you do it? Women masturbate in different ways. Some like humping or grinding themselves up against something such as a pillow or edge of a mattress. This can be beneficial to making love. If you can bring yourself to orgasm by this method (hands free), then the woman on top position may be for you! Women who like to be on top while making love say that they like to move around and grind their clitoris against their husband’s pubic bone or flexed abdominal muscles. They can bring themselves to orgasm better this way instead of just pumping up and down on his penis.

Then there is the hands on method. If you can bring yourself to orgasm using your own hand and fingers, then you will be more likely to orgasm by your husband’s touch. You will be able to teach him how to touch you the way your body likes it. Set aside some alone time and practice. Explore yourself and see what feels good. Not sure how to get started? I have some tips.

Make sure that you have plenty of alone time where there will be no interruptions and distractions. Get naked and get comfortable! You may prefer a hot bath or the bed. If you do not self lubricate well, then have a bottle of lube on hand. Sitting in front of a mirror can also be erotic and help put you in the mood. Pick a comfortable position and start touching yourself in all your erogenous zones. You know what feels good to you. If it helps, stick your fingers in your mouth and get them wet. Then trace them over your body, your neck, your nipples, your thighs, all the while imagining that it is your husband’s tongue. When you make it to your vulva, open your legs wide. Lick your fingers again or apply lube if needed. You want your fingers to be able to glide smoothly. Rub all around your vulva, from top to bottom, grazing over your clitoris from time to time. Tease yourself. Let it build. If you want to, then use your other hand to insert a couple of fingers into your vagina at the same time. (A toy can also be used.) This will help to provide g-spot stimulation at the same time. If you like anal play, then lube up your back side and allow your fingers to caress that as well. Some women like gentle caressing while others like penetration of the anus.

When you can’t wait any longer, focus your attentions on your clitoris. Do what feels good for you. If you like direct stimulation, then go for it! You can use the palm of your hand or the tips of your fingers. Back and forth or around in circles. Gentle touches or firmer pressure. Increase your pace while you imagine your husband watching, or helping, or making love to you. If it helps talk dirty to yourself out loud or in your mind. Say those things that you love to hear. Say the things that help to send you over the top. Sometimes really deep breathing or even holding your breath can help to put you over the top. When you orgasm, do what feels natural. If you need to move around, then do so! If you need to scream or moan or say something, then let go and say it! Ride the waves as they spasm throughout your body. Keep going until you can’t take it anymore. Some women can have multiples by continuing to apply pressure to the clitoris after the first orgasm. (Peppermint Girl wrote a nice two-part article on Multiple Orgasms.) Just do what feels good for you. Afterwards, enjoy your come down time.

There are many different variables to consider when touching yourself. Each woman is different. Masturbating is a very safe and totally natural way to learn how your body responds to touch. It can help a woman learn how to reach orgasm more easily with her husband. Doing it regularly can also really increase your sex drive. It will make you feel more sexual and your body will become accustomed to having frequent orgasms. In turn you will want sex with your husband more…and he will be a happy man! I’d love to hear from you ladies out there. Is there a great position that you have found that you like to masturbate in? Do you incorporate toys into your playtime? Do you include your husband in your masturbating sessions or give him a show?  Timid and inexperienced women need to hear from those of us who have suggestions and advise to lend. Please feel free to leave comments!

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